Let Us Talk About Anger Disorder
We all get angry every now and then and usually express it in some sort of way so that the headaches and stress level that eventually will make you sick are alleviated. The so-called "getting it off your chest". Well, there are thousands of people that can't do that effectively and suffer from what is called anger disorder.
One of the signs of having an anger disorder is if you find yourself screaming, shouting, yelling at your friends and family, or co-workers on a regular basis. So much so that people start steering clear of you when they see you coming, or walk on eggshells when they are with you. Included in this yelling behavior is name calling, blaming, ridiculing and the heavier duty actions like door slamming, bullying and finger pointing all of which are dead giveaways that you have a problem.
On the other side of the room, we have another type of anger disorder, and that is the total suppression of anger----so much so that the anger is internalized to the point of exploding inside you where you and your health become the victims of this disorder, because you cannot express it outwardly. You suffer from depression, you are tired all the time from holding all that in, and eventually your immune system becomes affected and you will begin to suffer from illnesses that could have been prevented if you could have released that anger in a productive way.
Another type of anger disorder is that where the person with the disorder is addicted to anger and rage and enjoys the good feeling they get whenever they express that rage so much, that that expression becomes an addiction----a compulsive-addictive pattern. This will happen over and over again, and quite often this disorder is the result of unresolved grief.
Passive-aggressive behavior is a term we hear a lot when referring to an anger disorder or a psychological diagnosis; but it is a very real disorder and sometimes referred to as "sideways anger" because folks just can't help doing it and the behavior operates on an unconscious level. Things like kidding someone unmercifully, or teasing and teasing until the person who is the brunt of this action ends up with hurt feelings. You are using humor as a weapon and you are attacking a victim with it. Other manifestations of this anger disorder are sarcasm and cynicism----making a statement about your victim but doing so in the form of a seemingly innocent question like "Are you sure you want wear that dress?"----a loaded question.
Think of the number of times you have seen someone so totally out of control with their anger and rage, that they were literally frothing at the mouth, face beet red, veins protruding in their neck, and unresponsive to outside interference trying to defuse the situation. This is a type of anger disorder called intermittent explosive disorder and it is an actual diagnosed disorder. The anger and rage is so pronounced and so over the top, that it does not fit the situation at hand at all and can lead to dire consequences for all involved.
We all feel anger and rage sometimes when our lives and the people around us pressure us to the point of no return; but if we are not suffering from an anger disorder, we usually just vent the anger in a constructive way and get on with the business at hand. That is not the case for people who suffer from these disorders, and unless they get the help they need to control their impulses; their lives will always be plagued with outbursts, social alienation, and physical discomfort.
One of the signs of having an anger disorder is if you find yourself screaming, shouting, yelling at your friends and family, or co-workers on a regular basis. So much so that people start steering clear of you when they see you coming, or walk on eggshells when they are with you. Included in this yelling behavior is name calling, blaming, ridiculing and the heavier duty actions like door slamming, bullying and finger pointing all of which are dead giveaways that you have a problem.
On the other side of the room, we have another type of anger disorder, and that is the total suppression of anger----so much so that the anger is internalized to the point of exploding inside you where you and your health become the victims of this disorder, because you cannot express it outwardly. You suffer from depression, you are tired all the time from holding all that in, and eventually your immune system becomes affected and you will begin to suffer from illnesses that could have been prevented if you could have released that anger in a productive way.
Another type of anger disorder is that where the person with the disorder is addicted to anger and rage and enjoys the good feeling they get whenever they express that rage so much, that that expression becomes an addiction----a compulsive-addictive pattern. This will happen over and over again, and quite often this disorder is the result of unresolved grief.
Passive-aggressive behavior is a term we hear a lot when referring to an anger disorder or a psychological diagnosis; but it is a very real disorder and sometimes referred to as "sideways anger" because folks just can't help doing it and the behavior operates on an unconscious level. Things like kidding someone unmercifully, or teasing and teasing until the person who is the brunt of this action ends up with hurt feelings. You are using humor as a weapon and you are attacking a victim with it. Other manifestations of this anger disorder are sarcasm and cynicism----making a statement about your victim but doing so in the form of a seemingly innocent question like "Are you sure you want wear that dress?"----a loaded question.
Think of the number of times you have seen someone so totally out of control with their anger and rage, that they were literally frothing at the mouth, face beet red, veins protruding in their neck, and unresponsive to outside interference trying to defuse the situation. This is a type of anger disorder called intermittent explosive disorder and it is an actual diagnosed disorder. The anger and rage is so pronounced and so over the top, that it does not fit the situation at hand at all and can lead to dire consequences for all involved.
We all feel anger and rage sometimes when our lives and the people around us pressure us to the point of no return; but if we are not suffering from an anger disorder, we usually just vent the anger in a constructive way and get on with the business at hand. That is not the case for people who suffer from these disorders, and unless they get the help they need to control their impulses; their lives will always be plagued with outbursts, social alienation, and physical discomfort.
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