Getting Your Ex Back Without Mistakes
Obviously, when trying to get your ex back, there are good things to do and some not so good things to do. Not doing the bad things will help you win your ex girlfriend or boyfriend back much more quickly.
One big mistake people commonly make is to argue with their exs over what happened. You should see it my way, Im really right, you just dont understand, youre being too sensitive, etc.
Look. Arguing could be one of the main reasons you lost your ex to begin with. More of it is not going to help get them back to you. Arguing with them will likely make them feel like they made a good decision to get rid of you.
Instead, listen to them. Get their views. Let them vent about their opinions about what happened and what you did wrong. You dont need to argue. Letting them get their feelings off their chest will make it much more likely they will want you back. Be a good listener instead of a loud arguer.
Another huge mistake is to stalk your ex by phone. This can be leaving ten messages a day on voice mail, or texting them ten times a day.
Phone stalking will just make them think you are desperate and weak. They will again think they made a good decision leaving you. Don't scare your mate by stalking them, and don't validate their decision to leave you!
Now, obsessing on your ex is fairly natural. Wanting to stalk them is almost normal. But do this instead: confide in a close friend how much you miss your ex and wonder what they are doing. Just don't let your ex know you are obsessing on them.
So instead of arguing with your ex to try to convince them to come back to you, learn some relationship intelligence that can get them back in your arms within days, sometimes hours.
One big mistake people commonly make is to argue with their exs over what happened. You should see it my way, Im really right, you just dont understand, youre being too sensitive, etc.
Look. Arguing could be one of the main reasons you lost your ex to begin with. More of it is not going to help get them back to you. Arguing with them will likely make them feel like they made a good decision to get rid of you.
Instead, listen to them. Get their views. Let them vent about their opinions about what happened and what you did wrong. You dont need to argue. Letting them get their feelings off their chest will make it much more likely they will want you back. Be a good listener instead of a loud arguer.
Another huge mistake is to stalk your ex by phone. This can be leaving ten messages a day on voice mail, or texting them ten times a day.
Phone stalking will just make them think you are desperate and weak. They will again think they made a good decision leaving you. Don't scare your mate by stalking them, and don't validate their decision to leave you!
Now, obsessing on your ex is fairly natural. Wanting to stalk them is almost normal. But do this instead: confide in a close friend how much you miss your ex and wonder what they are doing. Just don't let your ex know you are obsessing on them.
So instead of arguing with your ex to try to convince them to come back to you, learn some relationship intelligence that can get them back in your arms within days, sometimes hours.
About the Author:
You can discover more about this and other Immediate Reconnect Methods to get your ex back in a book about Making Up With Your Ex In 1 Day. Johnnie S Laney teaches classes on relationship intelligence and you can get the free course 7 Vital Marriage Insights You Never Discovered In School here at Marriage Advice Help.