How to Survive a Crisis in Your Marriage

By Ricardo d Argence

Handling a marriage in crisis is not easy because once it was blossoming with love and life and now your marriage is floundering and about to die. When the two of you were dating, love seemed to be in full bloom and it had a life of its own. The two of you had begun a new life as a couple.

When you get married, it seems like everything just falls into place and everything makes sense. When times get tough, though, and the marriage begins to struggle it can seem like the new life is starting to get old and may die out. If you aren't ready for your life together to die, your marriage in crisis may need to get C.P.R.

Get Counseling: One of the most underutilized and overlooked opportunities for a marriage in crisis is getting marriage counseling. Marriage counseling will go a long ways towards helping you not only find resolution to your conflicts but will help the two of you find ways to grow closer together. Marriage counseling will help you be better able to understand each other.

When utilizing marriage counseling, you will find better ways of self-expression without coming across in a manner that will be perceived as an attack.

Did it ever occur to you that one of you is dealing with some serious issues that is putting your marriage at risk? If you happen to be one of those people, then it may be best to get therapy on your own. This may be a hard pill to swallow because your pride tends to rear its ugly head and get in the way. However, if you are serious about saving your marriage that is in crisis, you will want and need to seek out a good marriage counselor.

Get Perspective: In the event that your marriage is headed for deep trouble, you will need to get some perspective about what is happening to your marriage. In this area it would be best to consult a marriage counselor because he or she will be able to help you to see things from a different perspective.

From your vantage point things may appear to be very clear. However, when a different twist is put upon things, what seemed difficult to understand before may make better sense. In case you are able to get a perspective from other angles and vantage points, you will become fully aware of what is happening to your broken marriage so that you will be able to throw a life preserver to your marriage in crisis.

Resolution: Now that you have been able to get a better perspective on the crisis you are faced with concerning your marriage and are getting some counseling, you will have a great variety of ideas and information to make use of. These things will aid in repairing the damage that is done IF you are able and willing to act on it. To put it one way: Knowing is half the battle. However, no battle that was half fought was ever won.

If you see a drowning person and you not only know how to swim but know CPR and are trained in first aid, you may know everything you need to know to help save that person's life. Will that knowledge save them? Only if it is acted upon.

You can apply the same principal to your marriage. You have to act upon what you have learned from marriage counseling and trying to get issues resolved that were killing your marriage. The only way to save a marriage in crisis is by acting. Then and only then can you make things better and cure your marriage in crisis.

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