Tips to Help You and Your Boyfriend Get Back Together

By Ricardo d Argence

When you really consider that, your boyfriend is worth it and you want you and your boyfriend to get back together. Are you tired of feeling lost and alone without him? More than likely you miss him while he is gone.

Consider changing your approach towards him and the relationship if you want you and your boyfriend to get back together. He may have panicked if the relationship moved along to quickly and marriage was on the horizon.

Perhaps he felt lacking in personal space or smothered in the relationship. He may have felt totally out of control of his plans for the future. Maybe, he felt some pressure from you and needed to back away from the relationship.

Hopefully this is the case but if you push too much it very well could be. If what you want is you and your boyfriend get back together you have to be aware of this.

Your boyfriend may be like many males and thrive on being independent. They need their space from time to time. While the idea of marriage and commitment may have seemed appealing to them for a moment, reality could have set in and now they are feeling trapped. Males very often need to feel in charge. They need to feel in charge of not only themselves, but of situations.

When the relationship moves along too quickly he feels out of control. He may not feel ready for commitment or marriage. He may feel lead into a long-term relationship. He may not feel ready for such a relationship with anyone. If he feels that way, he is not ready. Understandably, he will head the other direction if he feels pressured when he is not ready for a long-term relationship.

If he is not ready, he has left the relationship and you want, you and your boyfriend to get back together you have to keep it a secret from him. Do not show him that you are sensitive about the breakup or wanting to get back together. Do not try to force him down that road. Willingly walking that road together is what you want. Let him take the lead. He needs to feel as though it is his idea to choose the direction. When he is ready and he wants too, he will. You cannot fix the problem by forcing it.

Since there is no direction right now and you are dealing with a break up, now is actually a good time to get started back down that path. He may feel free and clear of you and to an extent very well may be.

Be available when he wants to talk, if you are still on a friendly basis. However, do not be too available. Do not be readily available, when he calls. Turn him down the first time he wants to make plans, but ask him for a rain check. He thrives on hunting; allow him to hunt by pursuing you.

Keep in mind that sometimes the things you want the most are those things that are the hardest to get. Let him hunt you. Men most often hunt for those things that are hardest to find. Allow him to go in for the kill and you will both be happy.

You want him to commit and if you make yourself someone worth hunting and let yourself be hunted and not necessarily caught, you may see you and your boyfriend get back together.

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