Avoid This Two Big Mistakes to Get Back With Your Ex

By Ricardo d Argence

Why is it sometimes so difficult to win back an ex? No doubt you've tried your best to get your love back, but everything you've tried so far has ended in failure and now you're desperate and frustrated.

There are actually two reasons why it's so hard to win back an ex. First, when you're still in love with someone who has called the relationship off, the balance of power is entirely in their favor.

The second point is that most people have no real idea what to do to successfully get back with someone they love and end up spending a great deal of time racing around doing all the wrong things.

Truth is, once your ex has the upper hand in a relationship you can find yourself forever trying to catch up to them and both of you know it. If your ex knows that you want them back often times they will make you work to get them back and they will often enjoy the drama of putting you through getting them back. Plainly put, they have something that you desperately want and boy do they know it.

To win back an ex then, play it cool! You don't have to declare straight away to your ex that you want them back. You simply keep that intention to yourself and make every effort to distance yourself from them.

If you think that your partner is about to call things off, then prepare yourself for this eventuality and when the time comes, be calm and let go easily, no matter how much you want them to stay.

Following the breakup, keep yourself busy and try to occupy your mind with things other than your ex. At this early stage, it's not going to help you to obsess about the breakup and trying to get back with your ex.

Keep your distance. Don't let yourself get caught up in their lives; if they should call you, be polite but let them know you have places to be and keep your conversation short.

This, of course is the hard part. It's only natural to want to be around your ex and try to do anything you can to prove to them that they need you in their lives; but don't do this, whatever you do!

This is entirely the wrong approach to take. The ex will either become sick of you being around all the time or see you as someone who they can take advantage of. What won't happen is that they'll take you back - this is a trap, so avoid it!

Keep your distance and what will begin to happen is that you will feel the power naturally swing your way and you will be in a far better position to win back ex.

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