What Can I Change About Me To Get My Ex Back?
Your relationship is falling apart and you have to start searching within yourself to find out why, and what you can do to change it.
Getting back into the dating scene after a breakup is never easy, but it's even harder if you compare everyone else to your ex. If you are constantly thinking of your ex, then maybe it's time to rekindle the relationship.
What are the most immediate things you can try to save your relationship? Is there one particular issue or a whole host of things? Whatever the reason, you need to find out from your partner what were the contributing factors in the breakup of your relationship. You need to work out what you both liked about each other and then what you didn't like. Make sure you discuss the issues rationally.
Don't take advice from others regarding your situation unless they're a professional. You'll find that everyone has an opinion and wants to give you advice about where it all went wrong, but you need to ignore all that and sort it out between you.
Whatever you do, don't chase after your ex. Keep your dignity. Don't turn up unexpectantly, and don't sent copious text messages or emails, as this will make you look desperate. Do your best to maintain an air of confidence and show your ex that you demand love and respect. Hold your head up high and you will increase your chances of getting back together with your ex.
Have you given away your power by making hurtful accusations to each other? If you're really serious about making changes to get your ex back, then the back-stabbing has to stop. Surely in the time you were together, you found some things you liked about each other, and that's why you fell in love. Why not write a list of things you really appreciated your partner for, so that you can concentrate more on the good points?
If and when you decide to get back together, try going on dates first and try to rekindle those feelings that brought you together initially. It's amazing what you can find out on a "first" date and it may have you both wanting to do it more often. Don't make the mistake of moving in together until you have resolved your issues.
Don't go back to the same lifestyle as that is taking a step backwards. Try changing what you used to do together even if it means changing the people you associate with. Make the commitment to each other to solve problems as they arrive rather than letting them fester. Vow to work together in everything you do and you will reap the rewards.
If you're really serious about changing what went wrong to get your ex back, then you have to change the way you perceive things. Work hard to build the trust between you two and you'll have an amazing life together!
Getting back into the dating scene after a breakup is never easy, but it's even harder if you compare everyone else to your ex. If you are constantly thinking of your ex, then maybe it's time to rekindle the relationship.
What are the most immediate things you can try to save your relationship? Is there one particular issue or a whole host of things? Whatever the reason, you need to find out from your partner what were the contributing factors in the breakup of your relationship. You need to work out what you both liked about each other and then what you didn't like. Make sure you discuss the issues rationally.
Don't take advice from others regarding your situation unless they're a professional. You'll find that everyone has an opinion and wants to give you advice about where it all went wrong, but you need to ignore all that and sort it out between you.
Whatever you do, don't chase after your ex. Keep your dignity. Don't turn up unexpectantly, and don't sent copious text messages or emails, as this will make you look desperate. Do your best to maintain an air of confidence and show your ex that you demand love and respect. Hold your head up high and you will increase your chances of getting back together with your ex.
Have you given away your power by making hurtful accusations to each other? If you're really serious about making changes to get your ex back, then the back-stabbing has to stop. Surely in the time you were together, you found some things you liked about each other, and that's why you fell in love. Why not write a list of things you really appreciated your partner for, so that you can concentrate more on the good points?
If and when you decide to get back together, try going on dates first and try to rekindle those feelings that brought you together initially. It's amazing what you can find out on a "first" date and it may have you both wanting to do it more often. Don't make the mistake of moving in together until you have resolved your issues.
Don't go back to the same lifestyle as that is taking a step backwards. Try changing what you used to do together even if it means changing the people you associate with. Make the commitment to each other to solve problems as they arrive rather than letting them fester. Vow to work together in everything you do and you will reap the rewards.
If you're really serious about changing what went wrong to get your ex back, then you have to change the way you perceive things. Work hard to build the trust between you two and you'll have an amazing life together!
About the Author:
Matthew Clarke, who has more than twenty five years giving unique relationship advice, has compiled several of his informative articles on his blog especially if you are trying to get your ex back. For a limited period you can get a free copy of his newsletter by visiting here.