How To Get Your Ex Back
If you have had a breakup, you are most likely wondering how to get over your ex or how to win back your ex. Neither option is a very easy one, but the majority of people tend to fit in one category or the other, with only a handful of them able to fully move on without pining or wishing it had a different outcome.
The first thing you need to do is take a step back and fully analyze both your relationship and your ex. Think about the way it was and the way it is going to be now. Do the best you can to set your feelings aside and be objective. You'll either want one of two things, to get your ex back or realize that the break up was not as bad as an idea as you thought it was.
If you decide to try to get your ex back then the first thing you should do is apologize. You might even feel that you have already done this. In fact, you might of said your sorry numerous times. But if your ex felt you were only apologizing to stop the breakup, then chances are good they did not view it as a sincere apology.
If you did something to your ex that deserves a sincere apology then consider apologizing again without trying to get back with your ex. Your ex will think you are sincere this time since nothing is hinging on your apologizing. When you have already gone through the breakup, then you won't be apologizing simply to try and save your relationship, but because you are truly sorry and meant it.
If your ex is the one that should be apologizing, instead of trying to get a sincere apology from them, just forgive them. You might never forget, especially if cheating was to blame for the breakup, but if you want to get back together with your ex you will need to learn how to forgive them. Just saying I forgive you might not be enough for you to truly forgive them so you might want to consider reading a book, or two, on forgiveness and how to really mean it. If you want to win back your ex, then this step will help you do it. It can also prevent future problems in your relationship.
If you do get back together with your ex, a few months down the road of your newly repaired relationship, some of the old problems that the relationship had might start finding there way back into your relationship. If you only said you forgave your ex but really didn't, then you will have a hard time getting past everything. When old wounds are reopened, then hurtful things are often said.
If you have fully forgiven your significant other, then there will be no need to rehash the past problems. While your learning how to forgive them for the problems that caused the breakup, forgive them for the breakup itself. This will save you a lot of heart ache down the road.
Another way to win back your ex is to show them the side of you that they fell in love with in the first place, not just the you who got broken up with. You were in the relationship because you had certain qualities that they loved about you like your thoughtfulness or kindness, not because you were hurt, angry, and a green eyed monster. While it will be difficult to hide that you are hurt, you should concentrate on being the best "you" that you can be and you might win back your ex by being the person that they fell in love with.
The first thing you need to do is take a step back and fully analyze both your relationship and your ex. Think about the way it was and the way it is going to be now. Do the best you can to set your feelings aside and be objective. You'll either want one of two things, to get your ex back or realize that the break up was not as bad as an idea as you thought it was.
If you decide to try to get your ex back then the first thing you should do is apologize. You might even feel that you have already done this. In fact, you might of said your sorry numerous times. But if your ex felt you were only apologizing to stop the breakup, then chances are good they did not view it as a sincere apology.
If you did something to your ex that deserves a sincere apology then consider apologizing again without trying to get back with your ex. Your ex will think you are sincere this time since nothing is hinging on your apologizing. When you have already gone through the breakup, then you won't be apologizing simply to try and save your relationship, but because you are truly sorry and meant it.
If your ex is the one that should be apologizing, instead of trying to get a sincere apology from them, just forgive them. You might never forget, especially if cheating was to blame for the breakup, but if you want to get back together with your ex you will need to learn how to forgive them. Just saying I forgive you might not be enough for you to truly forgive them so you might want to consider reading a book, or two, on forgiveness and how to really mean it. If you want to win back your ex, then this step will help you do it. It can also prevent future problems in your relationship.
If you do get back together with your ex, a few months down the road of your newly repaired relationship, some of the old problems that the relationship had might start finding there way back into your relationship. If you only said you forgave your ex but really didn't, then you will have a hard time getting past everything. When old wounds are reopened, then hurtful things are often said.
If you have fully forgiven your significant other, then there will be no need to rehash the past problems. While your learning how to forgive them for the problems that caused the breakup, forgive them for the breakup itself. This will save you a lot of heart ache down the road.
Another way to win back your ex is to show them the side of you that they fell in love with in the first place, not just the you who got broken up with. You were in the relationship because you had certain qualities that they loved about you like your thoughtfulness or kindness, not because you were hurt, angry, and a green eyed monster. While it will be difficult to hide that you are hurt, you should concentrate on being the best "you" that you can be and you might win back your ex by being the person that they fell in love with.
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