Cracking the Male Code Through Perseverance

By Alan Bentley

Many women say that they feel they are at a significant disadvantage when compared to men in virtually every aspect of their life, whether at home or within the workplace, but it seems that women are also somewhat frustrated when it comes to personal life and dating. They find it very difficult cracking the male code.

While it may be a sweeping generalization, women do need to be far more assertive in the professional arena, long felt to be a man's world or domain. Just look at the number of men who have advanced to senior positions as opposed to their female counterparts. There is no reason for one gender to outperform the other on the face of it and it might just be down to a lack of assertion.

If you get on the same wavelength as men, does this mean that you have worked out the age-old problem of cracking the male code. Does it just mean that, mentally and emotionally you have to act like a man to succeed? This is probably not true as surely equality means an equal dose of mutual respect, rather than sameness.

A woman can never hope to be truly happy if she adopts a subservient role to the man, as has been unfortunately the traditional position for so many generations. For better effects, a woman should be as confident as possible within every element of the relationship.

If you don't try and over-analyze it, cracking the male code may be a whole lot easier. Have you noticed how often they talk in sports metaphors and how most of them seem to be absolutely glued to anything concerning sports? Maybe this leads to the realization that they need to be hunting in packs and is an ancestral trait. Maybe it means that they feel there is safety in numbers and are in fact trying to avoid having to accept the error of their ways!

Maybe you need to domesticate your man and this is where cracking the male code can be a lot of fun. If you try and look at the big picture where you fit in, you will see that men view women as someone who takes care of details. As such, when he provides the food, you are expected to cook it. Modify your relationship and see what happens.

Confidence can be sexy and you should show it at all times. You never know how this may benefit your relationship to start off with. Don't confuse confidence with aggression though and think that you have to give "like for like" with him. Don't act like him, just be confident.

It is important to understand that as two different genders we may be very different fundamentally, but we are also even more different on an individual by individual basis. A lasting relationship will be based on an understanding of that and a willingness to accept the other for who he or she is. Life is too short!

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